Casual dating and intimacy
It is only in the middle stages where the imperfections are seen that larger issues can begin to develop.
One side may begin to pull away in the relationship; the one individual who feels engulfed while the other feels abandoned by this pull away.
Complicating things is the fact that each person experiences their own set of emotions, and can think of each other as the abandoner or engulfer!
In some cases the individual who distances themselves doesn’t notice, and the abandoner begins to feel like all the energy is coming from within to keep the relationship together.
A case is built by the avoider to stop the relationship and to shut down their emotions, such as by being critical, finding faults in the other, and losing sexual interest. Asking certain questions can clarify this : The emotion of love makes us feel vulnerable.